Ready for Change Update | August 2011
Coach's Corner: Ponder impermanence
I've been tired lately. Nap-two-hours-a-day, see-a-naturopath, obsessively-google-anemia, think-about-eating-red-meat, cry-with-exhaustion tired.
I'm telling you this because it's teaching me about permanence, impermanence, and how my brain messes with me.
Have you ever been in a situation that you just made worse because you treated it as if it were permanent?
That's what I've been doing. It leads to some good ol' catastrophic, fatalistic thinking:
"I'll never have energy ever again."
"I'll get so tired that I won't be able to serve my clients."
"I'll have to give up my business."
"I'll stop being nice to my husband because I'm too tired."
"I'll never have the capacity to care for another person because I am too tired."
Sooner or later this leads to something along the lines of: "I will die old and alone and poor."
All because I'm tired! And because I'm caught in the mindset of "I'm so tired, and it will always be this way."
Now, tell me, did this ring a bell for you? Do you ever catch yourself in fatalistic thinking, brought on because you think the situation you're in is never going to change?
Perhaps for you it looks different: "I will always be lonely," or "I'll never please my family," or "I'll always be insecure."
The lesson in this month's Coach's Corner is to notice when you've bought into permanence. Notice when your mental storyline is telling you that whatever situation you're in, it's not going to change. Notice what it does to you when you buy into the storyline and let it run wild.
What does it mean to let go of the storyline, and to sink into the knowing that "this too shall pass"?
What energy could you free up if you accepted that however things are, they will change?
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Skim the lowdown on what I've been up to
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A number of people wrote to say they appreciated the Coaching Tip of the Week about working with resistance.
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I've made two trips to Toronto this summer to run workshops with some of the great volunteers at Engineers Without Borders (EWB) -- I especially liked the experience of running a workshop on coaching with a small group of six participants, where everyone got a chance to coach and be coached.
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Here in Ottawa, I dropped by the Ottawa city chapter of EWB to run a team-building workshop on how to give and receive feedback. They gave me a pound of fair trade coffee from Bridgehead as a thanks!
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I'm keeping my eyes open for an office space in Ottawa where I can meet with clients in person. I'm holding out for something that feels like a light-filled, airy, plant-rich sanctuary, a place where my clients and I can more easily connect with our hearts.
What energy could you free up if you accepted that however things are, they will change?
Warmly,
Laura
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Laura McGrath
Ready for Change | Coaching and Therapy
http://readyforchange.ca
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